A friend of mine posted a status on Facebook this last week that taught me something. It probably wasn’t what they intended to teach, but hey, learning works like that. It went something like this, “I want to be what God wants me to be. That may never be a millionaire.”
My first reaction was a bit of irritation. See, the term “millionaire” carries a lot of cultural baggage with it. There are preconceptions of a lifestyle, mostly dead wrong by the way, that comes attached with the term. There are a lot of attitudes assigned with the term, mostly dead wrong by the way, that aren’t exactly what most noble people desire to emulate. There are a lot of assumptions about how to become a millionaire, mostly dead wrong by the way, that make people not want to pursue wealth because it’s assumed to require greed or manipulation. Our society has so much misconception about what “millionaires” are really like that they’re scared of success. And that’s not a good thing.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized: I don’t care about being a millionaire either.
I can say with a high degree of certainty that I eventually will be. Probably many times over. But it’s not the title or the association that I’m after. “Travis Lane, Millionaire” in itself means nothing to me.
What does mean something to me is the peace that I will gain knowing that I have set up my family’s financial future.
What does mean something to me is what that money will represent — the financial fulfillment of my responsibility as a husband and future father.
What does mean a lot to me is that I’m almost positive my wife and I have never had an argument about money, and that certainly won’t be likely to happen if our security continues to increase in the future.
What does mean a lot to me is that I can give, and will be able to give even more in the future along with my increased worth. Although I’ve occasionally been hesitant about my giving (and it’s okay to be — if you don’t feel like it’s sometimes a sacrifice, it’s probably not worthwhile), I’ve always been blessed enough to give, and I’ll certainly continue to give as the blessing increases.
See, it’s not about being “a millionaire.” It’s not about driving nice cars or owning expensive watches, although those things certainly aren’t bad side effects. It’s about peace. It’s about security. It’s about responsibility. If those things are your goal and you treat your money wisely over long periods of time, you’ll likely attain a seven figure net worth by accident.
Don’t focus on your net worth. Focus on what financial security means for you and your family. The money will follow.